Eating together as a family is how kids learn to make healthy food choices, to communicate with others and to master table manners. And you can’t start too soon, says pediatrician Sara Lappe, MD.
Here are five do’s and don’ts for making mealtimes with young kids go smoothly:
If you insist that young kids sit with the family even if they aren’t ready for solids or are refusing to eat, they’ll start to learn the rules of dining. Here’s how you can make the most of it:
Dr. Lappe says it’s good to let kids — even picky toddlers — choose from what’s on the table, and it’s OK if they choose just one or two things.
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“You are not a short-order cook. Make a decision about what you will serve, and stick to it. If your child does not want to eat all or part of the meal, do not make them something different,” Dr. Lappe says.
Kids may need exposure to a food 10 to 20 times before they decide to eat it. It can take another 10 to 20 tries before they determine if they like it.
“This means that you should offer your child broccoli 20-40 times before he or she may actually come to a conclusion about it,” says Dr. Lappe.
So if your child rejects something, try again in a few weeks, she advises.
Many parents insist that kids clean their plates in order to get dessert. “There is no magical quantity for how much they need to eat to earn dessert, but they should have made a reasonable attempt to try the meal,” Dr. Lappe says.
Perhaps your child is overweight. You could feel tempted to make some foods completely off-limits, but “forbidden” foods are a draw for kids and they tend to overeat these foods whenever they get the chance.
Instead, take a balanced approach by encouraging healthier treats and smaller portions of those treats. Again, this is where modeling is important. For example, it is OK to have ice cream but everyone should have the kiddie portion and consider going for frozen yogurt with dark chocolate instead of sprinkles and whipped cream.
“Find a way to incorporate these foods on rare occasions, and they will have a healthier approach to them,” Dr. Lappe advises.