Success in marriage is not so much about finding the right person as it is about being the right person, says Counseling Psychologist Ted Raddell, PhD. With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, Dr. Raddell offers 3 simple tips to add romance to a marriage or relationship.
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1. Think secret, sweet and small
Small gestures mean a lot. Try writing a secret message on a sticky note and leaving it on the bathroom mirror, checkbook, remote control or car dashboard. You could make up an acronym that is a private message, such as S.H.M.I.L.Y., to mean “See how much I love you.”
2. Plan a special date at home
Special evenings don’t have to strain your wallet. They just involve a little creativity. Surprise your spouse with some favorite things: a favorite meal, movie or game. You could deck out the bathroom with candles and soft music for a spa-like experience. If you both like traveling, you could collect pictures of interesting places as vacation ideas for an upcoming anniversary.
3. Show appreciation for your spouse
Being respectful, showing fondness and feeling positive about your spouse are crucial to the long-term success of a relationship. Take time to remember why you fell in love with your spouse and what makes you cherish him or her. Jot down the things you appreciate or admire about your partner and make a point to mention these to your spouse.