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For Women Who Can’t Orgasm: You’re Not Alone (and There Is Hope)

Medications and devices can help you get the satisfaction you deserve

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You deserve a healthy and happy sex life. We all do. Sex is a basic human function. And good sex can even do your mind and body a whole lotta good.


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But maybe you’ve been finding that you aren’t able to orgasm as often as you used to. Or maybe you’ve been chasing orgasms without satisfaction throughout your sex life.

Sexual dysfunction affects 30% to 40% of women and people assigned female at birth (AFAB). Some sexual issues are more related to your libido (or interest in sex). That’s called hypoactive sexual desire disorder, and it’s pretty common. What’s also common is having an interest in sex but not being able to consistently achieve orgasm. It’s called anorgasmia, in doctor-speak.

Anorgasmia happens to cisgender women, nonbinary people with vaginas, transwomen and others. It can happen early in your sex life, long after menopause and everywhere in between.

Knowing you’re not alone is a start. But where do you go from there?

We talked with Ob/Gyn Salena Zanotti, MD, about why women and people AFAB can have difficulty achieving orgasm and what to do about it.

Orgasms may not come easily

We don’t often think about what needs to happen to go from, “OK, that’s nice,” to a satisfying sexual release, but it’s actually a pretty complicated thing.

“Your mind needs to stay clear and focused. Your nerves need to remain sensitive, and blood needs to flow to all the right places,” Dr. Zanotti explains. “There are mental, emotional and physical aspects to sex, and, unfortunately, a variety of problems can interfere with getting to orgasm.”

She also says that only 10% of women easily climax, and many find they don’t orgasm at all during vaginal sex.

“I see many people in my practice who feel relief just to know they are ‘normal’ when they have trouble climaxing with vaginal sex,” Dr. Zanotti continues. “It’s important to understand that this experience is very typical.”

Common reasons women can’t orgasm

For many people who are chasing an elusive orgasm, it could be that some medical conditions and lifestyle factors get in the way. Common ones include:

  • Certain medications, including antidepressants and selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
  • Hormonal deficiencies, particularly after menopause.
  • Medical conditions, like diabetes and hypertension (high blood pressure).
  • Sleep disorders.
  • Lifestyle factors, like a lack of exercise and smoking and drinking alcohol in excess.


“If you think medication, hormonal changes or a medical condition is affecting your sex life, your healthcare provider can help,” Dr. Zanotti says. “Some people can get embarrassed about talking about sexual dysfunction, but in truth, your provider is here to help, not to judge.”

Know your erogenous zones

If hormones and medical conditions aren’t the case, another reason vaginal sex may not do the trick for you is strictly physical. For some people, your most sensitive areas may not get the … ahem … attention they deserve during vaginal intercourse.

During sexual contact (whether through masturbation or with a partner), achieving orgasm is all about stimulating your erogenous zones. Those are the places on your body that get your sexual juices flowing.

There are several places on your body that aren’t even connected to your genitals that can get your sexual blood pumping. They include your face, lips, neck and breasts.

Additionally, between your legs is a hotbed of pleasure-inducing nerve endings. And while you probably know the basic lay of the land down there, knowing the specifics of which points of your anatomy can bring on the most pleasure isn’t necessarily obvious.

While your vaginal opening itself can be an erogenous zone, it may not be the most sensitive one, Dr. Zanotti notes. That’s one reason vaginal intercourse alone may not give you a full sense of satisfaction.


Rather, you may find that you can experience greater sexual pleasure from stimulating these other erogenous zones, either during vaginal intercourse or on their own:

  • Your clitoris: The “pleasure center” of your anatomy. Its sole purpose is your sexual pleasure. Most people think of the clitoris as that bean-shaped part where your labia (“vaginal lips”) meet, but it actually extends inside your pelvic cavity, too. Using a mirror, you can see that the clitoris forms a wishbone or upside down “V” shape with the “bean” at the top and “legs” extending down. The entire clitoris is highly sensitive. You may find that your clitoris can be stimulated through vagina intercourse. You may also find that contact with a tongue through oral sex or with fingers or toys can bring on sexual pleasure, and sometimes orgasms.
  • Your G-spot: Short for Grafenberg spot, the G-spot is a region just inside your vagina that can cause intense sexual pleasure or orgasms. You can feel it by inserting a finger in your vagina and making a “come hither” motion in the direction of your front vaginal wall. Like the clitoris, it can be stimulated during vaginal intercourse, but you may find toys or fingers to be more effective.

Treatment is available

OK, so you’ve ruled out medical causes and tested out various erogenous zones and … still no fireworks? It’s not your fault. It’s not your partner’s fault. And there are other options, Dr. Zanotti says.


There are medications that have shown some benefit for women and people AFAB living with anorgasmia.

The antidepressant and smoking cessation drug bupropion (also known by the brand name Wellbutrin®) can help some people. Some providers may also prescribe the erectile dysfunction drug Viagra®, particularly to combat sexual dysfunction in people taking SSRI antidepressants.

Topical treatment

Your provider may also recommend an aptly named topical ointment known as “Scream Cream.” It’s a custom-blended prescription cream made by a compounding pharmacy. You apply it to your clitoris about 15 to 30 minutes before a sexual encounter to increase blood flow. While it hasn’t been scientifically proven to be effective, Dr. Zanotti says some people may find it can help increase sensitivity and encourage orgasm.



The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved two devices that can help women achieve orgasm.

One is called the Intensity™ device. It stimulates the pelvic muscles that contract with climax and also provides direct clitoral stimulation. The other is a prescription device called Eros that uses a gentle vacuum to stimulate blood flow to the clitoris. It can be used during sex or masturbation or as a way to condition your sexual response.

Talk with your healthcare provider

It’s important to note that there are other issues, besides orgasmic dysfunction, that fall under the umbrella of sexual dysfunction. They include low libido, painful sex, difficulty being aroused and even sexual aversion.

“All of these issues are very real,” Dr. Zanotti states. “Sexual dysfunction can cause distress and can affect relationships, as well as your own well-being. The good news is that treatments are available, which many people don’t realize.”

Sexual dysfunction can be isolating. It can be frustrating. It can keep you from fully enjoying the active sex life you deserve. But don’t hesitate to talk with your doctor. It’s a real problem. And there are real solutions available.


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