July 31, 2023/Mental Health

Tap Into Your Dark Side With Shadow Work

Recognizing your shadow self is about becoming a whole person

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We’re surrounded by binary forces that are seemingly in opposition with each other. When you start to look at them a little closer, you begin to realize that many of these things work together in tandem. And when it comes to thinking of ourselves as complete individuals, there’s certainly more to our identities than meets the eye. In fact, many of us may have a dark side — a so-called “shadow self” — that we like to keep hidden despite it being a big part of who we are.

Registered psychotherapist Natacha Duke, MA, RP, explains why the shadow self is not necessarily as terrible as it sounds and how shadow work can help you embrace your “dark side” features.

What is shadow work?

Shadow work and the idea of a shadow self carries a lot of negative connotations. Some of us might conjure up images of Peter Pan’s shadow, the rambunctious, primitive opposite of our storybook hero who always makes matters worse. Others might think of a haunting shadow instead, the kind that lurks just around the bend or a dark side that calls to our more sinister nature.

But in truth, shadow work and the shadow self aren’t as scary as they appear. In fact, they provide a great deal of enlightenment when it comes to how we identify and regulate our emotions and how we perceive ourselves and the world around us.

“Shadow work” and the “shadow self” are terms derived by the Swiss founder of analytical psychology Carl Jung. The idea of shadow work is that we all have parts of ourselves that we’ve repressed or largely ignored. Those long-forgotten aspects of our personalities, the parts of our identity that we’ve come to reject, make up our shadow self.

“The parts we hide from ourselves are not inherently good or bad,” says Duke. “They’re just a part of who we are.”

And though we may reject these aspects of our identity, they still reside in our unconscious mind as a part of our core sense of self. It’s up to us, then, to explore and uncover those parts we’ve repressed over time. By doing shadow work, we can find ways to accept those long-hidden parts of ourselves and integrate those aspects of our shadow self into our overall identity in the effort to become a whole person.

“We often refer to shadow work as working on our blind spots,” notes Duke. “Often, the shadow self is created in childhood when we’re told that something about ourselves is bad or that there’s a part of ourselves that is not OK or unlovable.”

If you grew up a very talkative child, your parents might have told you repeatedly to be quiet or talk less often in social settings. In order to feel loved and accepted, you might’ve started to repress that talkative aspect of your personality. And over time, as you continued to repress those parts, your shadow held onto those feelings until they bubble over or they’re triggered by external stimuli.


“What we resist persists,” states Duke. “We start to be triggered by the traits that we possess in our shadow self. And when we don’t work on our blind spots, they come out in our relationships.”

Another example: If you view yourself as a really generous person and you value that strongly, there’s a good chance that within your shadow self, you might have repressed feelings of selfishness.

“What’s going to happen is that every time you encounter someone who is putting themselves first, you might be triggered and those feelings will bubble up for you,” says Duke. “This person might not be doing anything right or wrong — maybe they’re just putting themselves first, making themselves a priority, or they’re not always available to other people and they have boundaries. But if you haven’t integrated that part of you that you consider selfish into your personality, you’re going to be triggered by that and you’re going to have conflict with this person when they show this side of themselves.”

At its core, shadow work is about discovering what sets you off and identifying the underlying causes for why they trigger such strong emotional reactions. It’s also about self-acceptance and coming to terms with the parts of your identity that carry any sort of unnecessary and unhelpful shame or guilt.

“It’s good to be able to see the beauty in all parts of yourself,” says Duke. “It’s not that the shadow self is holding bad things at all. It’s that the shadow self could unlock new and exciting aspects of your personality that you’ve actively been avoiding.”

Who is shadow work for and who should avoid it?

“Everyone can benefit from shadow work because we’re all going to benefit from being more self-aware and self-actualized,” says Duke. “But we need to look at how we’re going to do it.”

Because shadow work can unearth potentially uncomfortable and complex emotions related to the things you’ve repressed, it’s not advised to do shadow work on your own. In many cases, all types of therapy lend themselves to shadow work in some way. Psychoanalytic therapists especially have training in shadow work to dive a little deeper.

“It can be difficult to unlock what we’ve been repressing and uncover that without an objective party,” says Duke. “Often, shadow work is a long-term therapy. So, you want to ensure you have the time and the finances to dedicate to this, and that you’re in a space with your mental wellness to be able to confront some of the things that might come up in therapy.”

Not all shadow work is trauma-related, but if you’ve experienced trauma, shadow work can be particularly challenging and unsettling. You’ll likely revisit some of the events surrounding your initial trauma, so preparing for that experience and having a therapist to guide you through that process is really important to your health and wellness.


If you have any underlying mental health conditions like anxiety or depression that’s been recently triggered or difficult to manage, you may also want to prioritize treating those conditions before diving into shadow work, as they could cause additional complications during your therapeutic journey.

“If you’re experiencing any acute issues like panic attacks or insomnia that’s affecting your everyday functioning, I would look into coping strategies for that prior to doing shadow work,” advises Duke. “We need to be able to regulate our emotions to a reasonable extent before we can begin to do shadow work because it could bring up quite a bit of unexpected or uncomfortable emotions that are difficult to work through in the beginning.”

Benefits of shadow work

There isn’t much peer-reviewed research on shadow work, as it’s hard to measure. Shadow work can be done in so many different ways and people are affected by shadow work differently.

“Being able to validate how you’re feeling and see those aspects of your personality in a different light is enough for some people,” notes Duke. “For others, they might need more techniques or deeper work to come to terms with how they feel about themselves.”

There are several benefits to shadow work, including:


How to get started with shadow work

Before starting shadow work, it can be beneficial to keep a running tab of every time you experience a strong mental, physical or emotional reaction to people and things happening around you. What makes you irrationally angry? What moves you to sadness? When do you feel uncomfortable but can’t quite put your finger on the reasons why you’re feeling anxious, afraid, lonely or confused?

“Journaling your experiences is a really good start because once you begin to notice what you’re dealing with, you can’t unnotice it,” says Duke.

During your earliest visits with a therapist, you’ll likely be asked to share some of these experiences and recount how events unfolded, how they made you feel and how you reacted to them. The focus in the beginning will likely be on what your goals are for shadow work.

“Do you want to have better relationships? Do you want to feel like a more integrated person? Do you not feel whole? Are you experiencing a lot of anxiety or low self-esteem? These are all general questions we might go over in the beginning,” explains Duke.

Your therapist will also likely ask thorough questions about your childhood history and what life was like as you were growing up with your primary caregivers.

“Understanding the family dynamics and understanding your childhood is really where understanding your shadow self begins because often there’s some generational trauma that gets passed down,” Duke further explains. “What traits were you told to embrace? What traits were you told to avoid? What were your ideas of good and bad behavior and good and bad traits? What were you rewarded for? What were you punished for? These can all be good starting points in looking at what the shadow might be hiding.”

From there, your therapist will work with you in a collaborative process to identify aspects of your shadow self and come up with techniques to help you accept, process and embrace those parts of your personality in your day-to-day life.

“We uncover these things together because they’re blind spots,” says Duke. “You’re not always going to recognize these blind spots and you may not even accept them at first. But after a few therapy sessions, months down the line, you might start to recognize parts of yourself you want to touch on.”

Depending on your therapist, you might also participate in other activities as part of your therapy to help this process along. In some cases, people will do a chair or mirror exercise, where you project your shadow self across from you and have a conversation with your shadow self to confront your feelings. Art therapy and psychodrama can also be a part of your ongoing treatment.

As you’re going through this process, you’ll also want to make sure you set aside time for self-care and positive self-soothing activities that keep you grounded and feeling safe and supported.

Remember: You’re not alone in this journey of self-discovery, and every part of who you are is just as important as the parts you’ve always loved before.

“Often, with shadow work, you might feel worse before you feel better,” says Duke. “Grounding techniques will help will put you back to the here and now, and that can include meditation or exercise — all things that are important to your physical, mental and emotional health.”


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