May 2, 2021

Stress Relief for Overwhelmed Women

Trying to do it all is making us more stressed than ever

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Feeling stressed, ladies? You’re not alone. The American Psychological Association reports that women are more likely than men to report increased stress levels — and to feel the physical and emotional symptoms of stress.


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Behavioral therapist Amy Brodsky, LISW-S shares insight into stress relief for women.

“We have many of the same stressors as men: family roles, various personal and professional roles, financial issues,” she says. “But in addition to all of that, some stressors apply specifically to women.”

Women are trying to do it all

Traditional gender norms and gender roles are evolving, but often even in healthy, balanced relationships, women are still likely to feel pressure to not only take care of their careers and their families, but also everyone else in their lives.

“There are very entrenched societal ideas about the ways we are expected to be good wives and mothers,” Brodsky says. “The primary responsibility of taking care of the children, making sure there’s food in the house, and overseeing homework and housework are often assigned to women, whether by society, their relationship, or themselves.”

Periods: surprisingly stressful

Reproductive health issues, from monthly periods to fertility problems, are an additional source of stress, Brodsky says — even if women don’t always realize it.

“Several days out of the month, women deal with the additional stressor of experiencing discomfort and possibly pain, and trying to time self-care around that,” she points out. “It’s costly, it’s stressful, it’s messy, and we’re not allowed to talk about it.”

The societal stigma that keeps us from openly discussing these topics can lead women to feel like they have to handle their stress in silence.

Safety is a serious stressor

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that 1 in 5 women have experienced a completed or attempted rape – and those numbers don’t count sexual and verbal harassment and other assault.

“That’s not to say men are never victimized,” Brodsky says, “but every day, women consider their safety in the world in a very different way from men.”


If you’ve ever made a point to park under the one light in a dark parking lot, carried your keys between your fingers while walking, or told friends the details of an upcoming date just in case something happens to you, you know that safety is ever-present in women’s minds. All that hyper-vigilance can add extra stress to your life.

What stress does to us

Stress can cause increased anxiety and unproductive, circular thinking, all of which can manifest in unexpected physical ways — causing everything from sleeplessness to headaches and stomachaches.

Because women tend to want to care for everyone else around them, they may even respond to stress by retreating inward and cutting off friends and family.

“When we have a lot of demands in other roles, we may retreat from social contacts, since we feel we have no more to give.” Brodsky explains. “We only have so much energy.”

If the baby hasn’t been sleeping, you’re facing a big deadline at work, and you’re dealing with an illness in the family, you may pull away from loved ones out of sheer overwhelm. But social isolation can actually increase depression and anxiety, making women feel disconnected from their support systems in times of stress.

How not to cope

“The first thing that springs to mind when we think about unhealthy stress management are those big glasses of wine we call ‘mama’s helper,’” Brodsky says. “We joke about it and normalize it, but we often forget that alcohol is a depressant.”

In times of stress, turning to substances — even legal ones — can worsen anxiety and depression. So wind down the wine and aim for a mentality shift instead.

Healthy ways to manage stress

It’s time for women to embrace the mantra “good enough,” Brodsky says. “It’s a simple phrase, but it makes almost all of us uncomfortable because somewhere along the way, we were told that good enough is not good enough.”

Remind yourself that no one is perfect, and no one expects you to be flawless— not even your partner or your children, who just want you to be you. Sometimes that means a messy living room and takeout for dinner.


When you stop trying to achieve perfection, you leave more time for your health, including eating well, sleeping more and incorporating movement, Brodsky says. Exercise, dance, and even just walking around the block can work wonders on stress, if only you make the time for them — so let that laundry linger and go lace up your sneakers.

Practice careful consumption

The constant news cycle and the pressure of influencers’ seemingly flawless lives on social media can take a toll on our women’s stress levels. Just as our bodies are healthier when we consume nutritious food, so, too, are our brains healthier when we consume a limited amount of bad news and aspirational imagery, Brodsky says.

The same goes for engaging with difficult people. For peace of mind, it’s OK to put the kibosh on conversations with that nosy neighbor or to set time limits on socializing with frustrating friends.

“Limit interactions with people who suck your energy or have unreasonable expectations of you,” Brodsky advises.

When to see a professional

There’s help for women under stress — and you don’t have to be in crisis to seek it out. Please reach out to a doctor, therapist, or another trained professional if you:

  • Lose interest in activities you usually enjoy.
  • Have trouble eating or sleeping.
  • Experience panic attacks.
  • Have thoughts of self-harm or suicide.

And if someone you love seems distressingly stressed, don’t hesitate to say that you’re worried — especially if it seems like her stress has morphed into depression. “The more we have these conversations, the more normal these conversations become,” Brodsky says.

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