Tips on what to say and how to act when someone has cancer
It can be hard to know what to say or how to act when someone you know and love has cancer. Maybe it’s your spouse, a coworker or a neighbor. But no matter what, it’s important to say and do the right things in order to offer support to the person.
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Cancer care nurse Josette Snyder, RN, MSN, AOCN, says there is such a thing as “cancer etiquette.”
Cancer etiquette is interacting with someone with cancer in friendly, empathetic and appropriate ways. It’s showing that you acknowledge what they are going through — both physically and emotionally. It’s the awareness that cancer can affect everything in that person’s life.
You should respect, too, that everyone responds differently to events and experiences. People may not respond the way you would — and that’s OK. Accepting this can go a long way in talking with and helping someone you care about who has cancer.
Here’s what to keep in mind.
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