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Your Definitive Guide to Kids and Sleep

Children don’t come with an instruction manual, but here's our best advice for a good night’s rest

Parents and children sleep in large bed at night.

Sleep is one of our most basic human needs. So why does it seem the little humans in our lives are so dead-set against it sometimes?


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From babies who need a little help learning to get some shut-eye, to toddlers who need some positive reminders of the beauty of the letter ZZZ, to signs your teenager has been up too late texting and Tik Tok-ing, we’re sharing some of our best advice for making sure your kids get their beauty rest.

A child sleeping with a teddy bear.

1. Know how much sleep your child needs

First things first. We talked with pediatric sleep specialist Vaishal Shah, MD, about how much sleep your child needs. As with so many things in their early years, the number of hours your kids will need to sleep will change with time. Set a consistent bedtime by starting with knowing when your child needs to wake up the next day and counting back, based on the recommended hours of sleep.

A baby sleeping in a crib.

2. Sleep training for babies

Around 4 months old, your baby should be ready for sleep training, says pediatrician Noah Schwartz, MD. That means their sleep-wake cycles will start to be more regular and they’re ready to learn to fall asleep by themselves.

For babies, sleep training means learning to self-soothe. For parents, it means more sleep for you! (Finally!)

Remember, babies shouldn’t sleep in bed with you. Their crib should be free from bumpers, blankets and other hazards.

An infant yawning.

3. Tackle sleep regressions

So your infant is falling asleep by themselves, in their crib and making it through the night. You win!

Except… suddenly not so much.

It’s OK. Sleep regressions are common, says pediatrician Heidi Szugye, DO, IBCLC. Babies’ ability to sleep deeply and for long stretches can go through cycles. It’s normal, especially as your little one grows and is working on new milestones, like talking and walking. Stick to your routine and this, too, shall pass.

A child hiding behind a blanket.

4. Help your toddler go to bed, and stay there

The infant years are behind you. Your toddler has moved to a big-kid bed, and, well, things aren’t going so well. All that newfound freedom means they need one more drink of water. One more kiss goodnight. One more story.

We’ve got you covered. From sleep fairies to stickers, use consistent routines and heaps of positive reinforcement, pediatric specialist Jason Sherman, DO, offers advice to help your toddler get to sleep and stay there.

A child sleeping in class.

5. Know the signs that they need more sleep

Even with your best intentions, a lot of kids don’t get as much sleep as they should. Studies say about a third of kids aren’t getting the recommended amount of sleep. Exhaustion doesn’t always look like yawns and naps. It can mean more tantrums for little ones and difficulties in school for older kids and teens.


Whether they’re too young to tell you they’re tired, or getting too old to want to admit to it, Dr. Shah explains how to spot the signs of exhaustion in your children.

An illustration of a person sleeping on a cloud.

6. Don’t immediately reach for the melatonin

All signs point to a sleep-deprived kid? Start by working on their behavior before you reach for the melatonin, say pediatricians Gina Robinson, MD, and Timothy Benik, DO. While not necessarily bad for kids, melatonin doesn’t get to the root of the issue. Melatonin is a hormone that’s naturally produced by your body to help calm you down and prepare for sleep. And while it can be used effectively (with a healthcare provider’s guidance on dosage), it’s not recommended to be your first line of defense.

A person sleeping in the car.

7. Don’t forget about your sleep, too!

You’ve heard it before, but it’s worth saying again (and again!). You’re more than a parent. You’re a person with your own needs. And that means your sleep is important, too. (How else are you going to tackle that morning meeting, make dinner and safely shuttle the kids off to their various activities?)

When it comes to keeping yourself healthy, sleep is up there with eating right and exercising, says sleep expert Michelle Drerup, PsyD, DBSM. Taking care of yourself will help to make sure you can take care of your kids, and set a good example for them to get some shut-eye, too!

Sweet dreams, family!


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